I love going to see my acupuncturist, not even because of the treatment (but I definitely love that too), but it’s because of the profound expansive conversations I have with my doctor. He is just on the same wavelength and we talk about things like the Dalai Lama, connectivity, astrology, western cultures vs Eastern culture, and THE PRESENT MOMENT.
That’s a big one for our talks and it’s such a grounding topic to be implanted during an acupuncture treatment. Last night, my doctor started telling me about an occurring thought of his.
“So, being in the “here and now”, I realized how I can apply this in practicality to an every day situation. When you are driving or when you are driving with someone, you want a driver who is paying attention to the road, to the surroundings, you want a driver who is in the present so they can react to any unpredictable circumstances. You don’t want a driver who is stuck staring at their phone or thinking about lists or stories. You want a driver or to be a driver who is “in the here and now”. That is how we should be carrying ourselves.”
I loved this. ❤️❤️❤️
This brings me to my next point.
It’s the way we thrive, it’s where we feel our love expand and share our ideas and it’s where we can learn and feel supported. Validation is key. It’s not even that our conversations have to be metaphorical and profound every time. Our conversations about coffee or potty training or the lunch we ate can be just as connecting if we VALIDATE each other.
Now, connection doesn’t just come by HEARING each other, but by LISTENING. (This was actually another conversation my acupuncturist and I had one visit too)
You know when you are talking to a friend, and they are staring at their phone, and they are scrolling and saying generic responses, no eye contact, etc etc etc.
You may feel like your words were heard but do you feel like you were actually listened to? Connected? Validated? Supported? No.
“You can hear someone speak without listening to the words. Hearing defines only the physical measurement of the sound waves that are transmitted to the ear and into the brain where they are processed into audible information. Hearing occurs with or without your consent. The National Youth Council says hearing is such a passive quality, it occurs even while you sleep. When you merely hear someone’s words but are not listening to what’s being said, it can lead to misunderstandings, missed opportunities and resentments.” (Not surprising, there are other articles about this- Like this one! )
When we actually make eye contact or genuinely express interest and empathetic thoughts or comments to each other, when we are fully present and in the “Here and Now”, that is when we connect and that type of genuine connection is so imperative to us returning to our roots of love and support and relationships that last.
Today as you go about your day, I encourage you to remind yourself of this concept of listening over just hearing, of genuine connection. ❤